Sexpositivity: freedom, diversity and self-determination

Sexuality is a natural part of our lives and at Insomnia it is celebrated as a source of joy, self-awareness and connection. However, just as important as living out our desires and fantasies is respecting the choices and boundaries of each individual. At Insomnia, sexual self-determination and openness are at the centre of everything we do. We understand ‘sex-positive’ as an appreciative and tolerant approach to sexuality, identity and gender. Insomnia creates a space where you can discover yourself, free from prejudice and social pressure. Our events offer a unique environment in which sexuality can be lived and celebrated in all its diversity.

Everyone is welcome, regardless of origin, faith, gender, age, identity, body shape, relationship status or preferred sexual practices. The only thing that matters to us is that you are yourself. Your uniqueness makes you who you are – and we offer you a space in which you can celebrate just that.

Everything is allowed, nothing is compulsory. This guiding principle accompanies our events. At the centre are mindfulness, consensus and the willingness to respect oneself and others. For us, consensus means: only a clear ‘yes’ is a ‘yes’. Anything else is a ‘no’ – and is also respected.

We see sexuality as something positive that can promote personal freedom, growth and deep connections. At the same time, we are aware that this path can present challenges, whether due to social conditioning or personal inhibitions. At Insomnia, we offer a safe, flexible space to experience, learn and grow.

Welcome to a world where freedom, respect and consent are the basis for everything.

h2]Advice for couples: We congratulate you on your decision to visit an erotic club together. Visiting Insomnia is not cheating, quite the opposite. It is an opportunity to enrich your love life with exciting new experiences and to get even closer as a couple. With us, you share common experiences that deepen your connection and open up new dimensions of intimacy.

Preparation for your visit: It is important that you talk to each other beforehand, discuss your limits, desires, taboos and also talk about jealousy. If you decide to have sex with others, be aware that you are acting together as a couple and that the others are your ‘living sex toys’. It's not about romance and feelings – it's about lust, sex and variety, be it a threesome, bisexual experiences or role-playing with the appropriate equipment.

Don't try to persuade your partner to do something they don't really agree to. Not only could it ruin your visit to the swingers' club, but it could also have serious consequences for your relationship.

Sex-positive parties:

Choose your parties according to your preferences, personal limits and taste in music: the sex-positive parties (Friday/Saturday) are about partying, dancing, flirting, seeing and being seen, and whetting your appetite. On Saturdays with electronic dance music, techno, electro, progressive etc. On Fridays also with a variety of gothic, Depeche Mode, EBM, dark wave, 80s, 90s etc. At these parties you don't have to be sexually active, you can just party, dance or watch. There are no obligations, except for the erotic dress code. At most weekend parties, there is an area just for couples and their personal playmates. In addition, our awareness team is on hand and approachable for you.

Do your ‘prettying up’ at home, turn the music up loud, get turned on just by getting dressed together, enjoy slipping into a different role and leaving your everyday life behind you. A good outfit is a solid foundation for a great night! Be creative – your outfit doesn't have to be expensive, it should rather show your individual side. Experiment with materials such as velvet, silk, fur, feathers, leather, glitter or nylons. Be sexy, extravagant, kinky – be a feast for the senses!

Swinger Parties:

They offer a safe and welcoming environment for sexual adventures. We have active consent, which means asking first, then touching. If you want to swing, you should approach others in a friendly and open manner, without being intrusive. A ‘no’ is a ‘no’ and will not be discussed!

Special feature: Men-surplus – cuckold – wife-sharing party:

It makes little sense for a couple to come to a Men-surplus party if they don't have the fantasy of socialising with several men.

Fetish – BDSM Events:

Our BDSM parties are a safe space for polys and couples (and of course for singles) who want to explore the world of BDSM. Each event is led by an experienced host who is available to provide advice and support. These parties offer the opportunity to experiment and discover new things in a safe environment.
If you want to play SM games, you have to find the right tone! Keep enough distance to the scene, not that you are in the ‘swinging range of the whip’! 😉 Speak softly, approach with respect and address the dominant part in couples. If you do not understand something you see, e.g. violent BDSM scenarios, please contact the host or the staff. We will clarify such situations.

Hygiene and protection:

Please take care of your hygiene and safety. Make sure you showered and wash your hands regularly, especially after intimate contact. You can find disinfectant in the toilets. Condoms are available at the bar and so are rubber gloves and lubricant. There are bins under the black tables where used condoms, tissues, etc. can and should be disposed of. We provide towels, shower gel, disinfectant and changing facilities to make your experience comfortable and safe.

Advice for women:

Welcome to Insomnia! Use our clean, safe infrastructure for your sexual escapades and adventures! You can meet and have fun without giving away too much about your life. Attend our diverse events to explore your desires and fantasies.

Preparation for your visit: Before you come to us, choose the party that best suits your preferences, limits and music tastes. Our hedonistic parties are perfect for a sensual dance experience, for flirting and for whetting your appetite for more. The selection ranges from electronic music, techno, trance, electro, house, progressive to gothic, EBM, dark wave, Depeche Mode, tango and hits from the 80s and 90s. Or the specialised fetish, swinger and concept events during the week – each offering a unique experience. At most weekend parties, there is an area just for couples and their personal playmates. Plus, our awareness team is on hand to help.

Swinger Parties:

These events are aimed at women who want to actively participate in erotic encounters. Nevertheless, swinger parties offer many possibilities, but not every situation will lead to a match. The important thing is that you feel safe and comfortable. Active consent is our principle – this means that you should always ask before there is any physical contact. A clear ‘no’ will always be respected. At many parties, there is a host or hostess, who you can turn to or always our staff if you need support.

Men-surplus, cuckold and wife-sharing parties:

These special events are for women who want to live out fantasies with multiple partners. These parties can be very intense, but they also offer the chance to live out specific fantasies. Make sure you feel comfortable in such situations and know your limits. Feel free to talk to our hosts and they will support you in your game and make sure that everything happens within your consent.

Fetish/BDSM Events:

If you are interested in SM games, these parties are ideal for you. Immerse yourself in the world of BDSM and discover new facets of your sexuality in a safe and respectful environment. Each event is led by an experienced host who is available to provide advice and support. These parties offer the opportunity to experiment and discover new things in a safe environment. Keep enough distance from the scene, don't stand in the ‘swinging range of the whip’! 😉 Speak quietly, approach with respect and address the dominant part in couples. If you don't understand something you see, e.g. violent BDSM scenarios, please contact the host or the staff. We will clarify such situations.

Hygiene and protection:

Take care of your hygiene and safety. Make sure you have a fresh shower and wash your hands regularly, especially after intimate contact. You will find disinfectant in the toilets. Condoms are available everywhere or at the bar. Rubber gloves and lubricant are also available. There are bins under the black tables where used condoms, tissues, etc. can and should be disposed of. Towels, shower gel, disinfectant and changing facilities are available to make your experience comfortable and safe.

Discretion and respect:

If you become part of an intimate encounter, maintain discretion and respect the boundaries of others. Your attention should be focused on being a pleasant and considerate play partner. Respect the privacy of all guests. What happens in Insomnia stays in Insomnia.

Tips for first-time visitors:

Welcome to Insomnia, the hedonistic parallel universe with a potpourri of different festivities!

Preparation for your visit:

Before you come to us, take a look at the various events and familiarise yourself with the different party themes and requirements. Pay special attention to the outfit. Insomnia is not about dressing up, but rather about expressing new facets of your personality. Be creative – your outfit doesn't have to be expensive, it should rather show your individual side. Experiment with materials such as velvet, silk, fur, feathers, leather, glitter or nylons. Be sexy, extravagant, kinky – be a feast for the senses! Don't dress up, reinvent yourself!

Inner mindset:

Come to us with an open and curious mind. Avoid coming with a ‘taker energy’ and be an explorer instead – communicative, curious and respectful. Your energy and attitude are crucial to how your night goes.

Sex-positive parties (Fri/Sat):

These parties are ideal for dancing, celebrating, flirting and presenting yourself. Enhance the party with a great outfit, be communicative without being intrusive and enjoy the atmosphere. There are play areas just for couples and their personally selected playmates. If you happen to be one of them, you must leave the play area with the person who invited you afterwards. In addition, our awareness team is on hand and approachable for you.

Swinger Parties:

As a single man at a swinger party, it is important to find the right balance between restraint and activity. Paying the entrance fee is no guarantee of sexual activity. You are purchasing participation in a sex/fetish party, not a sexual service!

Each event is led by an experienced host who is available to provide advice and assistance. These parties offer the opportunity to experiment and discover new things in a safe environment.

Fetish/BDSM Events:

If you are interested in SM games, these parties are ideal for you. Immerse yourself in the world of BDSM and discover new facets of your sexuality in a safe and respectful environment. Each event is led by an experienced host who is available to provide advice and support. These parties offer the opportunity to experiment and discover new things in a safe environment. If you want to play SM games, you have to find the right tone! Keep enough distance to the scene, don't stand in the ‘whip's range’! 😉 Speak softly, approach with respect and address the dominant part of couples. If you don't understand something you see, e.g. violent BDSM scenarios, please contact the host or the staff. We will clarify such situations.

Friendliness, cleanliness, an attractive appearance (outfit!) and the right, pleasant approach are your key to success. Swinger / fetish parties offer many opportunities, but not every situation will lead to a match.

Important:

1. Talk at the bar: A good way to make contacts is to have a casual conversation at the bar. Start with light, innocuous topics and show interest in the person, not just in the potential erotic encounter.

2. Respect the relationship: If you are interested in a couple, be sure to establish a positive relationship with the male partner. He has to like it too, especially when it comes to sharing their partner. Avoid triggering jealousy by ignoring him and only flirting with her too aggressively. Rather find the basis of the relationship: ‘You have a great woman – would you like us to pamper her together?’ or ‘Have you ever thought about a threesome?’

3. Discreet approach to an erotic scene: When you arrive at an erotic scene, stay at a discreet distance (at least 2 metres). First try to enjoy the scene and take it all in. Have they noticed you coming? Have you been ignored or rolled your eyes in annoyance? Did they send you a shy smile or a suggestive look? If you feel that there is interest, gently make contact. A gentle approach like ‘I find you both very appealing, would it be okay for you if I watched you for a bit / join you / join in?’ can be respectful and inviting.

4. Self-love: Masturbation is allowed as long as it is discreet and respectful of others and at a reasonable distance from the scene. Don't run around the club whacking away like a horny baboon. Watch the reactions if you want to get visibly turned on. Some (not all!) couples like to be watched and aroused. Some also want to see if you would be willing to be the third or fourth in the bunch and will wave you over if your erection is convincing. Important: The more intimate the situation, the more important it is that you ask whether you can watch.

5. Accept limits: A ‘no’ should always be respected, without asking questions or showing disappointment. Rather thank them and wish them a nice evening. Everyone has their own limits and these should always be respected. Only a clear ‘yes’ is a yes!

6. Discretion and respect: If you are partaking in an intimate encounter, please be discreet and respect the boundaries of others. Your attention should be focused on being a pleasant and considerate play partner. Respect the privacy of all guests. What happens in Insomnia stays in Insomnia.

7. Hygiene and protection: Cleanliness and a well-groomed appearance are essential. Make sure you have a fresh shower and wash your hands regularly, especially after intimate contact. You will find disinfectant in the toilets. Condoms, rubber gloves and lubricants are available and should be used. Please dispose of used utensils in the rubbish bins under the black tables. There are towels, shower gel, disinfection and changing facilities to make your experience comfortable and safe.

Notes for the queer community:

The weekends are very varied and queer-friendly with the sex-positive party programme. Particularly noteworthy are the Young Love, Kinktastic and Hedomanie.

The swinger events are more suitable for bi contacts... our guests are very curious and open-minded about this.

Special feature: Cuckold / Wife-Sharing Party: Rather unsuitable for a visit.

Special feature: Fetish / BDSM Events: There are many straight couples / men who can imagine scenarios with bisexuals, trans*, genderfluid etc. With us, inclinations, fetishes and desires can be consensually lived out in a clean and safe environment.

Condoms are available everywhere or at the bar. Also, rubber gloves and lubricant. There are waste bins under the black tables where used condoms, tissues, etc. can and should be disposed of. There are towels, shower gel, disinfectant and changing facilities to make your experience comfortable and safe.

What happens at Insomnia stays there.